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From Victim to Survivor to Post-Dv Thriver™
"It wasn't until decades later that I realized it all hinged on this one series of events. 18 years of collective domestic violence, teenage promiscuity, probably even the rape when I was 12, because of the decisions I chose to make, all caused by this distant mentally challenged cousin when I was six years old. An entire lifetime of shame, low self worth, zero confidence and the never ending need for external validation, all caused by this one event. But it doesn't just matter where you start, or what you go through, who you become and how you change matters more."
This realization changed everything for me. Once I understood the PATTERN—that my childhood wound created the beliefs that made me vulnerable to abusers for 18 years—I could finally BREAK it. Understanding how childhood trauma affects adult relationship patterns is the key to breaking the cycle of abuse.
Fourteen years ago, I walked away from the final abusive relationship with nothing but my son, two dogs, a laptop, and a bag of clothes. After years of gaslighting, I had no idea then that "surviving" would eventually transform into "thriving"—or that my journey from surviving to thriving would become the foundation for helping other women do the same.
That's when my transformation journey truly began. I discovered strength training and learned how reconnecting with my physical body could be empowering rather than frightening. I immersed myself in personal development, reading over 500 books on psychology, mindset, and transformation. I pursued certifications in life coaching, personal training, and nutrition—not just to help myself, but because I felt called to help others.
Through this journey, I realized something crucial: most resources for domestic violence survivors focus solely on crisis intervention or trauma processing. Very few address the complete life rebuilding that survivors need—the physical disconnection, the identity crisis, the relationship patterns, the career rebuilding, the parenting after trauma. I knew there had to be a way to move from SURVIVOR to THRIVER.
The Three-Stage Journey
STAGE 1: VICTIM
In active abuse, no agency, trapped
STAGE 2: SURVIVOR
Escaped, processing trauma, healing, but still defined by
what happened
STAGE 3: POST-DV THRIVER
Built a new life, financially free, helping others,
living with purpose beyond the trauma
My Work Focuses on: The SURVIVOR → THRIVER transition (the gap most resources don't address)
Today, I stand 14 years post-abuse as a Post-DV Thriver™—a certified transformation coach with multiple credentials, running three businesses, happily married to a genuinely good man, and proud mother of my now 30-year-old son and two young daughters. I've built a life I genuinely love. But more importantly, I've discovered my purpose: to guide other women through this same transformation. Not as someone who theoretically understands trauma, but as someone who has lived it, survived it, and ultimately transformed it into purpose.
She Reclaimed Life was born from this journey—from the gap I experienced and the solution I discovered. It's the Post-DV Thriver™ movement: a complete transformation framework that addresses every aspect of rebuilding through the 5 Reclaim Pillars (Body, Mind, Spirit, Relationships, Life). Because you deserve more than just surviving. You deserve to become a Post-DV Thriver™ and build a life you love.
Book a Discovery CallProfessional Training & Lived Experience
I bring both the empathy of lived experience and the expertise of professional training to every coaching relationship, creating a unique foundation for transformation.
5 Coaching Certifications
Comprehensive training in transformation coaching, mindset work, and holistic life coaching methodologies.
Personal Trainer Certification
Specialized knowledge in helping women reconnect with their bodies through strength training and mindful movement.
Nutrition Specialist
Expertise in nutrition and wellness to support complete body healing and self-care practices.
14 Years Lived Experience
I've walked this path. I understand the journey from surviving to thriving because I've lived it myself.
Trauma-Informed Approach
Every coaching method is grounded in trauma-informed practices and nervous system regulation.
20+ Years Business Experience
Entrepreneurship and business expertise to support your financial independence and career rebuilding.
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The 5-Pillar Integration Framework
Complete life transformation requires addressing every aspect of your rebuilding journey. My framework integrates all five essential pillars for lasting change.
1
Reclaim Your Body
Somatic healing, fitness, and nutrition work to help you reconnect with your physical body. Through strength training, mindful movement, and self-care practices, you'll rebuild your relationship with your body and experience it as a source of power rather than pain.
2
Reclaim Your Mind
Mindset transformation, identity work, and confidence building to help you reprogram limiting beliefs and build unshakeable self-trust. You'll rediscover who you are beyond the trauma and create a new identity grounded in your authentic self.
3
Reclaim Your Spirit
Purpose, meaning, and joy work to help you find meaning after trauma and reconnect with what brings you alive. Through nature connection, spiritual practices, and purpose discovery, you'll experience post-traumatic growth.
4
Reclaim Your Relationships
Boundaries, healthy relating, and trust rebuilding to help you create safe, fulfilling relationships. You'll learn to set boundaries without guilt, recognize red and green flags, and break unhealthy patterns—including parenting patterns to protect your children.
5
Reclaim Your Life
Career rebuilding, financial independence, and purposeful living to help you create complete integration. You'll develop financial empowerment, rebuild your career or launch your business, and design a life you genuinely love.
Complete Integration
These five pillars don't work in isolation—they integrate and support each other. True transformation happens when we address all aspects of your life simultaneously, creating lasting change that touches every area of your existence.
Why I Do This Work
I do this work because I know what it's like to feel stuck between surviving and living. I know the isolation of feeling like no one truly understands. I know the exhaustion of constantly explaining your experience to people who haven't lived it. And I know the transformative power of having someone who gets it—who has walked this path and emerged on the other side as a Post-DV Thriver™.
I do this work because there's a massive gap in support for women after they leave. Crisis intervention saves lives, and therapy processes trauma—both are essential. But what happens after? Who helps you rebuild your identity, reconnect with your body, create healthy relationships, and design a life you love? That's the SURVIVOR → THRIVER gap I fill.
I do this work because I believe you deserve more than just safety. You deserve to become a Post-DV Thriver™—a woman who has:
- Moved beyond survival mode into active life-building
- Achieved financial independence so you're never trapped again
- Broken the pattern that made you vulnerable to abuse
- Reclaimed your identity beyond "victim" or even "survivor"
- Built a purposeful life you genuinely love
- Transformed your pain into power and wisdom
Most importantly, I do this work because I've experienced the transformation myself. Fourteen years ago, I couldn't have imagined the life I have now. The journey from victim to survivor to Post-DV Thriver—it's real. And if I can do it, you can too. That's not motivational fluff; it's truth backed by lived experience and professional expertise.
Who you become matters more than where you started. My mission is to help you become a Post-DV Thriver™, to break generational trauma cycles, and to reclaim every part of yourself. Because when you reclaim your life, you don't just change your own story—you change the story for your children, your community, and every woman who comes after you.
